Let me state the obvious by saying all women are not the same. We all have had various experiences which help mold us into who we are today.

Whether or not we admit it there are secrets in every relationship. Some might say men keep more secrets, some may say women keep more secrets. But let's talk about the women for now.

The truth is every woman turns over a new leaf when there is a new relationship. She may try to do things different, or may do things the same. But the bottom line is, she tries to learn about her new mate. What will upset him, what wont. is he picky? needy? jealous? controlling? romantic? Possessive? Most importantly is he honest. (And this is where 99% of men fail.)

Its these lessons learnt in the early stages that will determine: 1. whether or not she stays and 2. her conduct in the relationship (if) going forward.

So you may ask if she wants and honest man... why keep secrets from him? that may seem counterproductive right? Every woman wants to trust her man completely; with her private thoughts, but mostly her heart. Unfortunately the more he lies to her, cheats, keeps secrets, and does things behind her back;  that need to invest her thoughts and emotions in him diminishes rapidly. Above all else when a woman opens up her heart to a man, and confesses her deepest emotions and he acts in a way to violate those said emotions...she starts to keep them secret. It could be something as simple as her being abused as a child and doesn't like to be pointed at or backed into a corner during an argument. The man knows this "secret" and uses it against her in the heights of a disagreement. Which really isn't fair, but instead of arguing about the violation anything else she's hurting about she will hide it. Nobody wants to confide in someone that lies to them, or uses things confided to them in an argument. If she can't be honest with you about her feelings, when it comes to bigger things she will keep it secret as well. Or better yet, she will find another man to confide in and spend time with. I don't need to tell you that secrets and mistrust is a recipe for disaster in any relationship. Another recipe for disaster is confiding in people EXCEPT your spouse. It really isnt rocket science though, so what you need to ask yourself as a man is, am I honest? am I trustworthy? am I the reason she's keeping secrets? am I pushing her into the arms of another man? And when you find these answers, instead of being spiteful and vindictive, sit her down and talk to her.

Be the man and instigate the change, work on the trust in the relationship; she is expecting you to do so.